Your essay makes me think about this quote from CS Lewis : “There is no safe Investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfish-ness. But in that casket-safe, dark, motionless, air-less—it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”
I absolutely adored your writing! and I will definitely be heading to read your NYT article next- thank you for sharing such beautiful lessons we all need to read
I remember looking at my ex of 10 years one night towards the end of our relationship thinking, gods, I have never felt lonelier.
I 💯 agree - falling in love is unbelievably lucky. I am now in year 10 of being single since we broke up - multiple love affairs, multiple heart breaks, multiple emotionally unavailable boys… but also many many stories, the best adventures, and finding all the soul mates of my heart, my best female friends.
Charlotte in SATC said it best - “…we can be each other's soulmates. And then we could just let men be these great, nice guys to have fun with!”
Your essay makes me think about this quote from CS Lewis : “There is no safe Investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfish-ness. But in that casket-safe, dark, motionless, air-less—it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”
Love this! Thanks for sharing 🩵
I honestly can’t wait for the next chapter, “My 7th Year Single”…
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You get the whole cookie once you don’t settle for the breadcrumbs no more! That’s my motto haha
I absolutely adored your writing! and I will definitely be heading to read your NYT article next- thank you for sharing such beautiful lessons we all need to read
Thank you so much for the kind words 💛
I remember looking at my ex of 10 years one night towards the end of our relationship thinking, gods, I have never felt lonelier.
I 💯 agree - falling in love is unbelievably lucky. I am now in year 10 of being single since we broke up - multiple love affairs, multiple heart breaks, multiple emotionally unavailable boys… but also many many stories, the best adventures, and finding all the soul mates of my heart, my best female friends.
Charlotte in SATC said it best - “…we can be each other's soulmates. And then we could just let men be these great, nice guys to have fun with!”
Love this so much!!! Thank you for sharing!!! SATC is still such a guiding light for single gals 💛✨
We always risk it, my dear, no matter how many times we say we never will again
it’s also my sixth year being single & this resonates <3
6/6 slam dunk in the feels!
"I know that if I’m lucky, I may once again risk heartbreak — all for the life-changing magic of falling in love." FELT
loved this!
This was gorgeous!
I love this! And relate to so much of it also having been single for several years now
Yup being single for a long time you definitely hope love everywhere 🤗😜